Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him. – Louis L’Amour
Anger is an inevitable part of a stressful life we all lead these days. As far as I am concerned I get irritated very easily. Though I try hard not to engage myself in a verbal spat with anyone, yet there are times when nothing works. Whenever I get angry I end up harming myself. No no it not like I hurt myself physically, the damage is monetary in nature (I know it’s not a very wise thing to do).
Tips to manage anger:
“Whatever is begun in anger ends in shame.”- Benjamin Franklin.
Mentioned below are some suggestions that may help you deal with your anger.
• Stay quite: When angry count to ten before you speak. This technique will give us time for the emotion of anger to leave us. It will defuse your temper and make you calm.
• Be indifferent: Do not acknowledge the words and actions of people who make you mad. If you will not respond to their provocation in any way, then they too will lose interest and not bother you.
• Choose your words carefully: “Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret”, said Dr. Laurence J. Peter .Take time to think before you say anything otherwise, you’re likely to say something you’ll regret. If you cannot think at that time then it is better to take a break from the situation. Go for a walk, spend time with yourself until your frustrations subside a bit.
• Identify solutions: Instead of focusing on what made you mad, try to find out solutions so that such situations can be avoided in future.
• Focus on something entirely different: In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” Try to think about things which make you happy. Divert your mind from the situation.
• Practicing relaxation skills helps. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up. Practice deep-breathing exercises to calm yourself.
• Exercise: Engage yourself in some physical activity as it can provide an outlet for your emotions. It does not mean you start beating someone, by physical activity I mean exercises like brisk walking, running etc. by doing so you will be able to spill out all your negative energy into action and relax yourself.
• Smile: Smiling costs nothing but can successfully resolve tense situations.
I am definitely going to try these tips to control my anger and save myself some money.
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