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Love Is The Key To Everlasting Beauty
“Love makes life beautiful.”
We all know how true the above statement is. Love indeed makes life beautiful. Not only just beautiful, love transforms your entire life into something dreamy, something worth living for.
Remember the time when you first reached home from a 6-month stay in the hostel and your mum specially made kheer for you? That kheer tasted the best kheer ever. That’s love and that’s beauty in the food. Another day, when BFF surprised you with the sweetest gift ever, the gift that still rests peacefully in your over-loaded shelf – that is love in the beauty of the gift.
And then there is a day when your boyfriend or your husband holds your face in his hands and tells you, “you are the most beautiful woman” – that is love and that love has made you beautiful not only for him but also for your own self.
The ethereal glow on the face of the bride is not a mystery. It is the sign of her love. It symbolizes the fact that she is in love and that she is loved. There is no need to find a simple answer to the question of why we gets zits on face or why we look pale right after a heated argument. This paleness shows lack of passion and love.
Beauty in simple words is just a reflection of your inner self. You feel loved, you look loved. You feel sad, you look sad.
Recently, I was featured on Good Housekeeping Magazine. They did a two-page story on how I quit my job, moved to Andamans, had a baby, said no to several opportunities that came my way, tried to establish my identity in a new world and finally found happiness.
The Good Housekeeping editor said that she found my story inspirational and she thought that many other women may relate to it. She was true. Post that story, I have been getting lot of emails from women who have been or are in a similar situation that I was in few years ago.
It is good as well as sad to see so many of women trapped in the vicious circle of work-home-children life that they don’t know how to break it. IMBB is probably the biggest network of women and thus I decided to write my opinion here, so that it reaches a wide number of women.
There are times when we all feel low, dejected and jaded. I have been through these times myself. When I had just moved to Andamans in 2011, I came here with 6-month-old daughter and a husband who believed (and still believes) in ‘service before self’ and who was on his first posting so obviously he spent a majority of his time in his office. I didn’t question initially because I was busy setting up the house, reveling in the beauty of the new place, enjoying the new and sudden change and finally being jobless.
But soon came a time when I began to feel unworthy. I would look on FB and see how my friends were travelling abroad, buying luxurious stuff and hanging out with friends. I could see that this was exactly my life just a few months ago. And now I was here – in a jungle, without proper internet, a loving but quiet husband and a naughty but pretty baby.
I spent months in exploring what I truly wanted from life. The quest led me to few opportunities – a job assignment in Australia, a PHD call in the UK and a one year fellowship in the US.
Each time an opportunity like this knocked on my door, I was tempted to embrace it but then I would look at my small and sweet family and I would close the door.
Finally, in a matter of few months, I made the choice. The decision that changed my life, for the better.
I decided to be a stay-at-home mom. This was certainly not easy for me to do. Even when I was pregnant, I used to take lectures at a MBA college. I had never been jobless, not even while studying. During my engineering studies, I used to give tuitions and earn a couple of thousands every month.
Post marriage, I had quit a very lucrative day job with IBM and I did it very conveniently. How? Because I was loved. When I got married, I realized that this was the love I was looking for and I couldn’t bear the thought of being away from it. So, I joined my husband and moved to Andamans.
Now when I became a mum, I again had to take a call and I decided to give up ambitions to work and focused on becoming a good mother and a good wife. Not that I advocate quitting your job. I firmly believe every woman should be independent. I am independent too even though I don’t have a full-time job.
This is where love plays a big role. I tell you how.
Love your work:
Should you work full time outside your home, make sure it is worth the energy, time and emotions you invest in it. You must LOVE this job. I was in IT and I never liked it. I did MBA to move away from coding. I did but still I was not too happy with my Business Analyst job. So, I decided to call it off.
Tip: Do the job that you love, you truly enjoy. Simply because if you love your work, it won’t seem work at all.
Love your life:
Loving your work always is not easy. Authors and bloggers who choose writing out of their love for writing also feel writer’s block. We all face times when we know we enjoy a particular activity, but we don’t like it or find it amusing for some time. It is natural and happens to everyone. In such cases, focus on the love in your life.
Tip: If your work is otherwise quite satisfactory, and you know you are not liking it temporarily, take a short break. If break is not possible, just pander to some selfish desires or little pleasures of life. This would fill the gaps of your work life.
Love the people:
I feel people and relationships are one’s biggest assets. Last night only, we had some state guests in our district and I and my hubby met them at dinner. During a casual chat, two of them (at different times) mentioned to me that I was lucky to have a life partner like him. One of them actually said, “it is exhilarating to see young officers like him who say that I like Andamans because I can spend quality time with my wife.” Here they were referring to my husband’s dedication to his work plus his commitment to his family. I replied, “Sir, it took years of hard work to make him realize the importance of quality time with family” and everybody burst into laughter 😛
Everyone who knows I got married at the age of 28 believes my wait for the right partner was worth it! I agree too 🙂
It is people who fill our lives with happiness, peace and love. With loving people around, the sailing of life becomes smooth.
Tip: No matter how busy you are, never ignore or take your loved ones for granted. Begin to invest in people. Progress in life but not at the cost of love of family.
Life becomes more beautiful when you have love around. It may be your hobby, your baby’s babbling, your little garden or the spices in your kitchen you like to play with or it can be simply your small gamut of close friends or doting parents. It can be a super supportive and understand husband or it can be a love for fashion and trends.
Whatever it is, keep this love alive. It will make you and your life beautiful, forever.
Remember, “beauty lies in the eyes of beholder?’ If you love your life, you would find it beautiful. Simple.
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