What Attracts Women To Men

What Attracts Women To Men

The Child In Him

-By Jean Gabor

I loved the child in him
so innocent and sweet
The mischief in his eyes
the blush upon his cheek
The tender way he spoke
that showed me that he cared
The touch of his warm hand
that gently touched my hair
The smiles that we shared
that filled my life with glee
For when I was with him
I found the child in me.

I am one of those unfortunate few of the now-extinct species, who was never in a relationship before marriage. Since my teenage years up until last week, my dream man was “Shahrukh Khan,”….not now, since I shockingly learnt through the famous “kiss controversy” that he seems to be swinging both ways. Throughout these years that I remained “loyal” to Shahrukh Khan, I observed everything silently from the ring side and everything means how males/females get attracted to each other, how they spend time together, how they avoid each other, and the complexities of break up, out of these some weather every difficulty and eventually end up being together. I have charted down some of the qualities and characteristics that I think make men more appealing to women and vice versa. So, today, I would like to present the list of qualities of men that “I think” are most appealing to women.

1. Sense of Humour The ability to make a woman laugh is the biggest gift a man could ask for. A great sense of humour draws women to a man like magnet. There will not be a single woman who will shoo away a man who can make her laugh and dissolve her sorrows. To tell the fact, a joke will remain in a girl’s mind much more longer than a romantic dialogue. So,…………….

Attraction
Attraction

Madhubala was one of the most beautiful women at that time and she got floored by Kishore Kumar’s sense of humour.

Totalgadha has also got a great sense of humour, err, I haven’t taken Poutmati’s permission.

2. Smell good A few months back I remembered reading a post here on IMBB that men find carrying around the smell of sweat sexy. Well, I and most of the female junta will “acckthooooooooooo” at sweaty scent. Women like their men to be smelling clean and fresh and if you have worn the perfect cologne, that scent would linger in the girl’s mind long after you have left. Some men mix more than two to three colognes together to get their own unique smell and they leave women guessing. For example, our own Rads finds this great smelling Christian Dior SA “so cute.” 🙂

AXE
AXE

3. Sensitive and understanding Women like their men to be sensitive towards their feeling and comfort them when they are down in the dumps. If you want your woman to be anchored to you for life, you have to respect her feelings and give her a shoulder to cry on when she needs one. For instance, if your girl’s cat/dog has died and the only way you can comfort her is by telling, “Thank God, that yucky creature used to steal food from my plate,” then most probably, the girl will reach for the flower vase. Being sensitive helps a lot in the long run, so don’t forget to give alms to the beggars or tip the waiters generously whenever are you are with your prize catch.

Attraction

4. Jack of all trades Women expect their men to be jack of all trades, never mind that they are master of none. A woman expects her man to repair the kitchen’s tap, open the jar of pickle, fix a flat tyre, and replace a blown-out fuse. Please note that to learn a little bit of plumbering and electrician work will help you in the long run. Believe me, it is so disappointing if a guy can’t fix a blown-out fuse.

Jack of all trades
Jack of all trades

5. Bad boy image Some women crazily fall head over heels with bad boys. Most probably, this fascination for such men is because the women hope and are confident that they will hopefully be able to “reform” them some day. I actually don’t know the exact reason.

Charles Sobraj
Charles Sobhraj

Charles Sobhraj is idolized by women even today.

6. Geek and Intelligent Men Women find geeks attractive and “so cute”. Women believe they can light up the dark lives of geeks. Besides, if someone can solve E=mc2, that is so “wow.”

Bill Gates
Bill Gates

Bill Gates scruffy hair and simple dressing makes him a woman magnet.

7. “A man who doesn’t stand for something will fall for anything.” Women like their men to take a stand for them if such a situation arises. No woman will stick to a wimpy man for long even if he has millions of bucks or looks like a Greek god. Men who stand up for their woman are the most respected, loved, and are never exchanged for.

fall for anything
fall for anything

8. Possessiveness I have seen many women complaining about their partners being possessive, but the truth is every woman wants to be “possessed” and it makes her feel “wanted” and “treasured.” But, the problem arises when a man becomes “overpossessive” and stalks her, and utters sentences like, “I can hear a male voice in the background.” Such men will get dumped sooner or later because it is difficult to put up with such behaviour.

Over posessive
Over posessive

9. Six packs, four packs, and family pack Women drool over six packs and four packs because not only do men look attractive in their toned bodies, but it also shows that those men are capable of hard work and taking care of themselves. Also, men with athletic bodies are a favourite. A man with a “family pack paunch” is not that attractive after all.

Hrithik
Hrithik

Hrithik with his six-pack.

10. Men who are likely to promise a better life. Sometimes women are attracted to men with whom they tag along just to sail through their current difficulties and difficult situations. Jacqueline Kennedy married Aristotle Onassis, a wealthy greek business who was 28 years older to her only for protection, as she feared the Kennedy family was being targeted after the assassination of her brother-in-law Robert Kennedy earlier that year. Onassis was a wealthy and powerful man, exactly what she needed. Her marriage would also accomplish her goal of taking her and her children out of the US. This marriage was one of convenience as the couple rarely spent time together. Jackie spent most of her days traveling and shopping.

Robert Kennedy
Jaqueline Kennedy

11. Money. “”If women didn’t exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning. ~Aristotle Onassis. “”It’s not all about money, but it is still about money (coined for Jomol, please give me credit for that). Some women are attracted to wealthy men because these women dream of a better future and things which only money can get them. Even financially well-placed women get attracted to wealthy men because they can support their hi-fi lifestyle.

Vijay Mallaya
Vijay Mallaya

Vijay Mallya is always surrounded by pretty woman, his millions of course play a part in attracting the beauties.

12. Last but not the least and most importantly, women get attracted to men who are loving, caring, lovable, and pamper them. Such men are very rare and only few lucky women are able to find such men. Well, the only example that comes to my mind is that of a fictional character…..Greg of “Dharma and Greg.” He is the perfect man every woman would die for.

Greg
Greg

Thomas Gibson plays Greg in “Dharma and Greg”

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    1. In fact i was trying to figure out living examples, i mean people whom i know including myself, for each of the points mentioned by you…really makes sense!!

        1. I like you too.. :hugleft: people with good humour sense are the only kind whom i feel jealous of…i like to laugh a lot…am jealous of you!!!

    1. Hawww..Rati….Shahrukh khan kissed a male foreign guy last week…and it was a tongue in mouth kind of kiss…not on the cheek even 😮 😮 😮 😮 😮 😮

        1. but I didn;t really believe it….i thought he was too handsome to be gay kinds……….but you know….if he is really gay, his wife is still stickkng with him and that’s a real bad situation 😮 😮 😮 😮 😮 😮

          1. sorry I don’t know if you will really read this or not now, but I didn’t even knwo about this controversy….there have been rumours about SRK being bisexual for years apparently…and as for his wife sticking with him, it must be because of all the money…otherwise in public they hardly ever come across as an actual married couple!

  1. Instead of Bill Gates there should have been a pic of Mark Zuckerberg or the Google guys …. Geeeky and Nerdy can be HOT 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛

    cute post Surpanaka :-* :-* :-* :-*

    1. he is a gay!!….One of my bf’s friends is a telugu actress, and she has done some side roles in hindi movies too. She told about many “guys- relationships” about SRK (AR, KJ). There was one pic that was circulating in Mumbai that had SRK kissking Karan Johar. But, then these guys paid hefty stuffs to the media and got the pics off within a few hours.

      This particular pic got circulated coz it wasn’t under SRK’s Mumbai’s rule!!…This was taken on an international talk show, by one of the audience. This scene wasn’t aired in the show too. Later, SRK got the tale changed and said that this was a scene from My name is Khan – and it was removed in editing.

      I hate SRK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-X :-X :-X :-X

      1. Caliji you a homophobe kya ?

        Most people in the industry say SRK is bisexual …. who cares … the man is a great actor… a great dad, and from what I can tell his wifey has no complains … 😛 😛 😛

        1. no..Jahnvi..me not against homos…but I feel bad when people exploit others for their own sake!! That friend of my bf..she told, so many of her friends got turned into pros just coz theseeeeeeeeeee actors, directors and producers asked them to compromise and then didn’t give them roles… :-(( :-(( :-(( :-(( ….My bf wanted to go into modeling. But, he didn’t go for that. Why? The modeling agent of Bangalore is SRK’s fav..Arjun Rampal..And he sleeps with every man and woman before giving them the contract. Its a badddddddddd badddd world you know!!…. 😐 😐 😐 😐 😐

      2. 😯 😯 😯 you are talking avbout SRK??OMG i have heard things about karan johar but this is news to me…i used to like SRK :pain: :pain: 😯 😯

  2. Hahahahahaahahaa OMG I just saw that caption …. realll Ratidoooo Robert Kennedy was cute thats why he won the elections …. abhi yeh buddha ko robert kennedy bulake itna bhi giraao mat ! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: sheeeet Ratidoooo

  3. What an awesome article Jomol!! :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: Now, I can figure out, why I never fell in love with anyone..not even to the heroes!!! :-/ :-/ :-/ ..Never had crush on any actor. Have had just one childhood crush till date….After that all men used to look lame and same to me!!! 😐 😐 😐 😐 …Until…I fell in love!! :cute: :cute: :shy: :shy: :shy: :shy: he he….Few reasons why I fell in love with “him”:

    1. Sense of Humor
    2. Smell good
    4. Jack of all trades
    5. “A man who doesn’t stand for something will fall for anything.
    8. Possessiveness
    9. Six packs
    12. Last but not the least and most importantly, women get attracted to men who are loving, caring, lovable, and pamper them.

    Additional one
    13. Looks like Greek God, but that is the laaaaaaaaaaast reason of all..!! 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 …
    The first and the foremost one was “sense of humor” (makes me laugh even when my eyes are already flooded with tears of sorrows!! 😥 😥 ) and the 12th point…caring and loving!! :-)) :-)) :-)) ..I am suddenly feeling so lucky!! 😛 😛 😛 😛 O:-) O:-) O:-)

    1. awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww…..how cute Cali………….. :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: I wanna trade places with you…….. :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove:

        1. Cali………………it feels so good to someone in love….how cute….even Rads and her calvin ka dad, Poutmati and Eno Kumar, Janhavi and her mystery guy….mmmmm….me wanna have an extramarital affair :drool: :drool: :drool:

          1. Janhavi’s is not a mystery guy. His name is Sireesh. J doo phasooed that poor guy. Then J dooo made a cute teddy bear for him after phassoing him. Then J do went to firangi land to study and leave the poor guy waiting for her. J dooo coming back to India with her normal brown hair next month. then they marry happily ver after. me already stocking gendha phools to throw at her during her pheras. 😀 😀 😀

            Oh!! J do not keep karwachauth vrat also for him and he no like it. :-(( :-(( :-((

                1. :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: OMG Ratidooo That was the best version of my louuuu story ever – am sooo going to copy paste this and save it somewhere ….. and yes yes its Shresht not Sireeeesh :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* choooo cute – u remembered itna bhi

  4. awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww…… 😥 😥 😥 😥 :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :struggle: :sidefrown: :struggle: :sidefrown: :struggle: :sidefrown: :struggle: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :weep: :weep: :weep: :weep: me not old Gaali Devi…..me in my 20s…….

    1. But I bet you are leaving your 20s soooon and I am just entering them 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 Besides you have Arohan … you are mommy now … you neeed older mature guys now … not these Ashton Kutcher types naaa 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛

  5. superb article Jomol……me was trying to compare my BF reading each point :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly:
    I had never been in a relation before this….lack of time and dedication towards studies..etc.
    I thought love always bring sad endings…..then this O:-) comes and my thinking changes…now I am loving the whole process of love, relationship drama, etc :kissblow:

    btw did SRK really kiss a guy :O…..me a big fan of him….surely SRK was my dream guy before my BF entered my life…. :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

    1. Jinal………..you terribly in love na….yeah SRK seems to be a bi ………………….almost every thinks so 😕 ?:-) :-/ 😕 :-/ ?:-)

    1. Thanks Rima………… :cute: :shy: :cute: :shy: :cute: :shy: :cute: :shy: …….its the biggest compliment ever…. :cute: :shy:

    2. The topic is not going off my mind..funniest part is if you have a love marriage after few years many of these things mentioned in the post based on which you fell in love with the guy, suddenly turn out to be negative…for eg: six pack: u get bored of the strict diet n excercise regime by your hubby, or when possessiveness turn out to be annoying, or the money factor, u would feel better if he could spend a little more time with you rather than busy all the time making money or when you find that bad boy still a bad boy and no hope for any reforms etc etc

    1. They are dreaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaam men Sanjeev…They only exist in “DREAMS”…. 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 ..er…well most of the times. I, however know one such guy..lol.. in real… He is handsome, intelligent, graduate from IIT Delhi, MS from MIT, has BMW Z3 and some other cars too which I don’t remember, is a Vice President in some Investment company, just 29 years old. ..donno about great kisser and animal in bed. :silly: :silly: He got married last year, so can’t suggest him to anyone here!!! 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛

  6. this is such an awwwwwww post Jomol 🙂 Loved reading every bit of it and analyzing why i fell for my guy 😉 Enjoyed it thoroughly 🙂 AWESOME! :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes: :yes:

  7. I actually think that the above quality are good for a decent husband with whom you can ‘tolerably’ spend your life and not a love of your life. To me it is all animal attraction, I would have been attracted to Rati even if she was poor, grumpy and unattractive.

    Even before Rati, I had been fatally attracted to people who were so completely wrong but I couldn’t help myself.

    I still cannot define why I am attracted to Rati. :-((

      1. What’s there to write about, Pamela Anderson’s assets 😛

        On a serious note, I read a research on Scientific American once that subconsciously the women who are attractive to men have a particular shape (I am not talking about Pamala here) which includes the hips and passes a subliminal signals to males (as primates) that those women would be good child bearers.

        1. :shame: :struggle: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth: :shutmouth:

    1. Actually i agree with Sanjeev, attraction to a man or woman is a very personal thing but these qualities are something which are like the basic ingredients..you can take it from there and end up with some of your own set of criteria.
      And it never takes all these qualities in a man or woman to fall for..sometimes only a few may be good enough for all..After all some imperfections make our loved ones more endearing!!

  8. old formula of “A great kisser :kissing: :kissing: , an animal in bed :pig: :pig2: :pig: :pig2: , with a Ferrari in the garage :car: :car: ?” is such an outdated formula :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: ………….we want loving, caring, and sense of humour please………………………

      1. Cali……… :-* :-* :handshake: :handshake: :handshake: :handshake: :handshake: :highfive: :highfive: :highfive: :hugleft: :hugleft: :hugright: :hugright: :hugright:

    1. i agree with Sanjeev..i feel attraction comes first and then only reasons for getting attracted..i mean we find out reasons for getting attracted to the person, and probably those reasosns may not be the real reasons too, just finding excuses… :-/

      1. Yeah……..you are right..My bf proposed to me just after 8 days of meeting me…..And we went ahead almost instantly…According to him – it was love at first sight..And I always get :-X when he’d say that coz I felt that he was mocking me!! :weep: :weep: .. Now I can see the reason!! :-/

        1. Same pinch..ours was also love at first sight!!!and later on when people would ask me wat made me fall for him, then i started thinking about the reasons and now i have a long list of such reasons!! 😉

    1. Really?do u feel so?but i wont…i want quality time spent together and not money alone..not that money doesnt make me happy but still…

  9. Who doesn’t like money??I do love it when my guy gives me gifts and all but then i dnt think i would have liked it if he gave those gifts to compensate for something like not spending time with me..For me spending time with him in any way be it together or on the phone matters much more than any of the expensive gifts that he may give!!!

  10. and sanjeev, that thing about men attracted to women who have better child bearing capabilities refers to a very subconscious and the primitive part of the brain.
    Something that nature does with its law of natural selection and survival of the fittest!! In that case women are supposed to be attracted to men who have better chances in gathering food and keeping them protected..
    This may explain the money and attraction relation

  11. I agree with Cali 100%….there is this actress called Shwetha menon and she once revealed in her interview that her boyfriend wanted to be an actor and was sleeping with men and women around to get roles, but was used and then cheated…….uggggg

  12. Jomol….what happ to “Tall, Dark and Handsome” – M&B only has those – and its selling like hot cakes 😛 😛 😛

  13. Gaali Devi…..I am a homophobe….I mean I don’t understand when they say, “”its about choices”…..if its about choices, then animals, birds, and other living things are also choices…… 😮 😮 😮 😮

    1. There are various reasons Jomol….In fact, if we delve into that we can come up with books on “Why men get attracted to other men” or “Why women get attracted to other women”. I did my graduation from a residential girl’s college and believe me, I was equally shocked to see lesbians there. But they were there, happy and contented…..and had their own reasons to support their liking and attraction towards each other!! 😐 😐 😐 😐
      That time I thought these gals are going like this, probably because they can’t find guys here in this jungle….but I got the second shock of my life, when I saw two men smooching at San Francisco in front of me!! :quiet: :quiet: :quiet: :quiet: …California is the gay capital of USA!! 😛 😛 😛 😛

  14. I still havent said that it’s an awesome post Jomol. My only criteria probably was or is that I should be able to strike a conversation with a guy. I have dated guys whom i could not talk beyond a point but they were in my life because of “good looks good looks and good looks” 😛 Sanjeev is someone i can talk to endlessly and I wouldn’t get tired. Marriage changes a lot of things, a boat load of adjustments come along but I feel if you can really “talk” with your partner life becomes easier.

    I remember I was dating this guy . Within him the routine conversation used to have two words for sure” aur baato” 😐 😐

    His possessive nature used to be very bugging initially because I was very independent by nature. But that was something I started loving about him the most.

    His sense of humour. :rotfl: :rotfl: There are days when I fall laughing at the things he says :rotfl: :rotfl:

    And it’s quite strange but we have a similar taste in loads of things starting from books, music, food, places etc.

    I get attracted to him even on days when his hair is most messy and he is sitting in super datty clothes. :X-P: :X-P: :X-P:

    Awww!! I am also feeling so blessed just like Cali. :shy: :shy: :shy: :shy:

  15. My man smells goooooood all the time, he is jack of all trades and is possessive in just the right amount…

    He is “Whoa!!” intelligent and still not nerdy… OMG.. Jomol you made me all senti… If anyone can write the most “hat ke” posts it’s you!! :-* :-*

    And i don’t believe this about SRK… :idk: :idk:

  16. Ok back from a meeting. Btw Jomol, thanks a ton for your praise- nicest thing you’ve said to me so far. 🙂

    And here’s an IMBB quiz for the ladies:

    Which of the following lines would you like to hear from a guy?

    1. Hello, my lips are registered weapons.
    2. Hi, I’m safe and sterile.
    3. Hey, I can even do the dishes.
    4. So, are we related? Would you want us to be?

    Answers plizzzzz :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin:

  17. Jomol….Awesum article…lovvvvvvvvvvddddddddddd it :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* Although i will nvr go ahead with eneone wid points 5 (bad boy) and 7(six packs) some how i find the body builders a turn off…maybe i m frn sum othr planet :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: ….

    Rati…i totally agree wid u…being able to talk non stop is bherrrrrrryyy important….. 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

  18. She dragged my name into another post of hers :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame: but yup me like nice-smelling hoomans… 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

    On the whole homo-gay-bi discussion, “about choices”means if a gay couple is happy with their choice and have found love and a caring relationship with each other, why the hell does it anger other people??? How their preference in partners is affecting anybody else’s life so much that you would want to take a stand against it I cannot understand! If anyone is putting their private bedroom life on display right in front of you while you are standing in queue waiting for the coffee I can quite understand…its disgusting..but its just as disgusting if whether its girl-guy, girl-girl, or guy-guy. What I am basically trying to say is I cannot understand why anyone should hate SRK even if those supposedly authentic pictures of his kissing a guy are really authentic…. ?:-)

    1. Rads…i totally agree with ur Rant :rotfl: 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 ……Btw ammachi do u count holding hands also as a criminal offence 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

      1. I louuuu holding hands.. 😀 😀 😀 😀 You know what Farha, some time back a group of us friends had gone to this ice cream place. There is a line for the ice cream ordering, so we were waiting and there was this teenagish couple right in front of us in the line and they were eating up each other’s faces…well at least looked so to all of us…do they have to stand in the line and do this..like get a corner or some place out of way for us normals naaa. All of us found it disgusting…I don’t know if we all were old-fashioned!

        1. Hawwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!! I havent seen a real life smooooooochhhhhhh….I dnt thnk i wud hav found it disgustingggg….i wud hav called my gfs and told dem about the scene in front of me :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly:

          Me looooooooovvvvvvveee holding hands…. :blush: :blush: :blush: :blush: :blush: was wondering if ppl find it ajeeb… :-(( :-(( :-(( :-(( :-((

            1. hehehehe me shameless in that regard tooo….but hubby full of sharmo haya in that matter…grrrrrrr I keep on givin him dhamki….”wil :-* in public one day u jst wait n watch”….i knw dnt hav the guts to do that though 😉

    2. Haila 😯 😯 😯 …he he 😀 😀 ..nice looonggggggg rant Rads :nerd: :nerd: ..but me don’t hate SRK for kissing guys 😐 😐 ..let him kiss his dogs, guinea pigs and cats too and I don’t have any issues at all…I feel bad about the people he and other might have exploited for their own personal gains :-(( :-(( …because of that I don’t like them at all..None from the film industry in fact!! ..No one had ever been my fav. till date!! :idk: :idk: :idk:

  19. Sorry about the longish rant, but it always amazed me how people can have such strong reactions on this whole topic…but apparently, judging by my longish comment, even I have strong opinions on this :rotfl:

    1. such senstive issues are always debatable..and as long as our constitution has granted us freedom of speech n expression, debate continues…its fun to argue no?? 😀

  20. I am going to be soooooooooo rude to everyone today :reallypissed: :reallypissed: :reallypissed: :reallypissed: :reallypissed: :reallypissed: :reallypissed: where is Jomol…me fight with her and throw poooops at her…she so horrids…right after she cursed me the charger died, Rati :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry:

  21. This Rads doesnt desrve my kindnesss :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: …it was really full of muffins…wil go and change the postal address to Delhi waalas now…

  22. Farah….how can you offer muffins and things to my enemy on my post….give her poop… :poop: :poop: :poop: :poop: :poop:

    1. I thnk she has gotten so used to all the poop :poop: that one day she will stop havin foood coz all she can c everywhere is :poop:

  23. Hidimbi…..I think I would have to agree with Cali again….she put everything correctly…..actually, excuse me if I am talking like Baba Ramdev, but I do feel that we are going a lot against nature……since its freedom of expression, most of the interviews that I have read about gay and lesbian people is that they have been exploited sexually at some point in their lives and they have been carrying that guilt throughout….I am not saying all gays and lesbians have gone through the same, but then whatever interviews that I have read, mentioned those. Now, what about, that. Children going through such a trauma, are they really capable to handle it, what will happen to their psyche….are they interlinked……….no answers…….. 😮

    1. I believe ..each to his own…..its their personal choice…if they njoyeeeeeee and r happy with same to same :silly: …..go ahead hav a blast…. 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

  24. FaRHga won’t mind me calling her farhga…..btw….can you pronounce…”addarmanjan” correctly…. :snicker: :snicker: :snicker: :snicker: :snicker: :snicker:

    1. Actually m very used to ppl spelling my name incorrectly…Tell u my full maiden name…Farhadeeba Nafisuddin Siddiqui…hehhehhe in school it used to use up all the space in the attendance registers….. 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 now it is Farha Dhar( i never mention Farhadeeba… 😉 ) 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀 😀

      1. All the space and all the alphabets also!!!! Heheheee…loads of names are like that…my dad’s full name also sooo many alphabets…and hubby’s tho is hilarious….passport guys go mad all the time.

  25. Jomol you are so funnnny…where do you come up with these words from….me laughed so much and so loudly reading that comment :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: :worship:

  26. Madamji, I didn’t say all gays have turned gays because of sexual exploitation….I said there is something very deep and disturbing down there……..I don’t hate gays or lesbians……I just don’t think its “okay”…….. :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad: :razzmad:

    1. Jomol…cum here we will experiment and den decide if its “okay” or not…. 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :silly: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

  27. I also believe that those who are gay or lesbians should come out in the open…..because I think I told you this story about this guy in our neigbhorhood marrying this girl and accepting lots of dowry from the girl and car and what not……the girl didn’t live with him at all, was sent away back to her home, girl’s family accused the guy of impotence, then finally it was revealed that the guy was gay. Why cheat someone wantedly……why let someone go through such a trauma…..what fault of that girl do you find?

    1. Hmm…yaaa I remember reading that one. I think the reason such kind of people keep quiet is they are worried about reactions from the society…but really, he is a guy na…can’t he just say no to marrying..and not spoil some poor girl’s life like that…grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr….is okay for hmi, but the girl is forever going to be “once married” naaa…our mahaaan society is so loving and caring towards girls who are “married and left husband” whatever the reasons might be :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry: :reallyangry:

  28. Jomol, all I am saying is exploitation in the entertainment industry is a different thing…and somone being homosexual is another thing. Why say ke so and so is gay and so and so exploits people so its wrong? Does that mean if so and so was straight and exploited people that would be okay? Me saying ke if you want to say it, put it as XYZ is bad because he exploits people..what has it got to with whether he likes exploiting girls, guys, or everyone together.

  29. Hawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Farhga…….”come we will experiment”…..somone please hand me a rope to hang myself……… :shame: :beatup: :shame: :beatup:

      1. Bachao Bachao……..bhagwan ke liye muje leave karo…. :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :beatup: :shame: :shame: :shame: :shame:

    1. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

  30. See….hidimbi….I think I and you have got it all jumbled :-X :reallyangry: :-X :reallyangry: :-X :reallyangry: …

    first one is, i don’t think same-sex relationships are okay…..I am netural to them. 😐 😐 😐 😐 😐 😐 😐

    Second, I think SRK has such a huge fan following, all idolizing him, and thinking whatever he does is correct, lapping up all his words, and if he is exploiting guys and girls secretly, that’s bad, and his leading a gay life secretly as well as depicting a picture of “happy married life” is double standards and such a sham because you can’t have both. That’s why I have started hating him because he always potrayed this image of a loyal man and then if he is doing something like this….shame shame :shame:

    Third, I was always amused by this gay-lesbian thing, newspaper do carry inteviews of people who have come out of hte closet, a majority of those interviews, these people have revealed that they have been sexually exploited and they have been carrying that emotional baggage…….that means how many children have been silently putting up with sexual abuse………..

    I rest my case 😀

  31. You have your opinions and I have mine :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* as long as you don’t hate anyone how does it matter…

    BTW….me thinking you better run now…Farha just called you “meri rani” :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: I love love love Farha

    1. Rads u wait n watch i will make her “okay” with evrythng….. :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil: :devil: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin: :evilgrin:

      1. O God…… 😯 😯 😯 😯 😯 😯 😯 😯 😯 someone please inform this Farhga’s husband……… :cell: :cell: :cell: :cell:

  32. WOW lots and lots of debates here … I dont think most of the gay and lesbian people who are that way have been abused… it may seem that way in interviews ut i think that coz gay and lesbian people who are they way out of choice dont make for very good news coverage na … by the same token lots of children who are being abused are very very heterosexual … and of course we must always remember correlation does not mean causation ….

    Homosexuality is ok …. child abuse is not …. that the two are linked has not been scientifically proven and therefore I dont see what one has to do with the other ….

    As for industry exploitation … it happens … in the film industry … in the corporate world whatever … Its not ok for sure but the people who submit to this are as much to blame as those who ask for those sexual favours … its perfectly possible to make a break with your integrity intact… not easy but possible …. but everyone wants the easy way … you scratch my back I scratch yours … quid pro quo … wtv … who am I to judge ?

    I dont think SRK has a double standard cause im pretty sure his wife knows about it and is ok … if she wasnt I have no idea why she would remain married to him at all … And from what Ive seen of him he is a kind and caring and very devoted father … Ive worked at Red Chillies and he is most definitely a concerned boss (his wife maybe not so awesome) …. I can’t hate the guy who will turn up for every sports day at his children’s school and run with all the parents in the parents race … for someone who is SRK ..I thinks thats absolutely sweet … and no am not some blind SRK fan but hes a guy who seems to be doing the best he can in any situation and film industry rumours and stories are always best taken with a pink of salt IMO …

  33. Gaalli Devi…I disagree on the interlink between child abuse and gayism….not that all gays are abused, but a majority of them are…………. 🙁

  34. No jomoji … I know lots of sexually abused kids (its sad but its a huge chunk of my classmates frnds etc) and none are gay … also met enough gay bisexual adults none of whom were abused … news stories always need an angle and no news is ever objective … so no one will ever publish the story of a gay dude who just woke and felt misunderstood … wahaaan story kahaan hai … and like I always say newpapers are not social service … they are businesses they need to make money … sell paper or channels need to sell adspace… who will watch or read if there is no taaza khabar … so of course news is full of dukhi sexually abused children who turn gay … theres no fun in a story of a girl who was lesbian because like Katy Perry she “kissed a girl and liked it” naaaa

  35. yes Surpanaka – in their TV dept – I interned there last year 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 and SRKs kids were in my school so me seen first hand caring daddy 😛 😛 😛

  36. nahin…..but these people write their own columns and life stories…oprah’ show is reliable isnt it…..

    Janhavi……you know, like small boys are sexually abused from someone within their family, like their maternal or paternal uncle, mama, chacha, tau, cousin brotther, then they are hurt, parents refuse to believe them and blame the kids for cooking up the stories, the kids feel hurt and agonized, they blame themselves that they are the culprit and not the victim, they carrry this hurt for their entire lives…..but again, I do wanna stress, that there a majority of them are sexually abused, if not all…………

  37. cheee I typed up this huge comment and it vanished 🙁 not going to type again … but all me was saying jomoji is i know there are ppl who have been abused and are gay – i agree with you there .. only you say majority me say minority … and of course I do not think correlation is equal to causation … so just because x amt of abused children are gay does not mean they are gay because they are abused no …

  38. The thing is naaa…Jomol is indifferent to someone being gay or not…but she is totally against child abuse. So really there is no argument at all here about that. She just a bit mixed up somewhere about it in her comments 😀 😀 😀

    As for talking stuff about celebrities, I feel its wrong, not because they are celebrities, but unless you have seen it for sure and know it for sure, its wrong to gossip about people based on soemthing you read somewhere or you heard on the radio! They are humans too, so a bit of restraint on strong statements about their personal lives won’t really hurt anyone …just my opinion…no opphhhence meant to anyone here 😀 😀 😀 😀

  39. Radsooooo I totally agree with you … celebs are real people with jobs that happen to pay a bit more 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛 😛

    and me against child sex abuse tooo – its horrid and evil and it totally ok to have a strong opinion on that na …..

    did u see cali’s new Wilbur video … I finally know who Wilbur and I think im in :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: :inlove: this dude is badasss man !

  40. Superb article Jomol…very intresting! I luv ur style of writing :inlove: Wish I can be this good :struggle: :struggle: :struggle:

  41. Combination of such a man is impossible but it is true that the way to woman’s heart are all these qualities.

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