“Mirror, Mirror Upon the Wall, Who is the Fairest of All?”

“Mirror, Mirror Upon the Wall, Who is the Fairest of All?”

You know that phrase “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”? Yes, it seems so wonderful at first but what if the beholder isn’t exactly the right one? What if the beholder is blind or jealous or prettier than you or is simply your mother? Even worse, what if the beholder is your own self?

Mirror Mirror Upon the Wall Who is the Fairest of All

Let’s admit it. There are bound to be things about our body that we love just about as much as the 101 Dalmatians love Cruella de Vil. We’re XX chromosome people – and XX chromosome people ALWAYS have self-image issues, be they 14 or 45. A little kid who does not understand the meaning of the proverb “Grass is greener on the other side” should be directed to the nearest woman standing in the room and if he listens to the kind of self-loathing talk that goes on in her head, he’ll understand what that phrase is all about. Let’s not sugar coat it. A woman is always interested in her body-image. Sure, she may be very passionate about books or languages or microbes or parallelograms or the brains of a Rhesus monkey or the Pre-Raphaelites or polar geology or semiconductors or financial trading – and yet she is fundamentally and always interested in how she looks.

Actually, we don’t even do it intentionally. It’s just in our DNA to look at another person (usually another woman) and do one (or even all) of these things:

a.) Internally groan and feel jealous of her legs/figure.
b.) Marvel at her skin and decide to blow up enough money to feed a small African nation at that fancy skin clinic.
c.) Scoff at her seemingly “inferior” skin/clothes/body and feel smug.
d.) Hate her guts for being so pretty, funny, positive, and intelligent at the same time, and then proceed to indulge in some obsessive self-loathing involving Shah Rukh Khan movies and criminal amounts of

Mirror Mirror Upon the Wall Who is the Fairest of All

That’s how it works and we ALL do it. If you believe that even Aishwarya Rai doesn’t look in the mirror and sometimes think, “Man, I wish I had a flatter tummy,” you’re wrong. No, wait, her pregnancy and the subsequent kid just made the biggest news after Osama’s death, right? Oh well, slash Ash. Let’s take Katrina Kaif, and her belly woes then. I am QUITE sure that she has thought of it at least once in her lifetime, and no, I am not talking about her pre-Boom too-huge-for-a-model days. I’m talking about looking-ridiculously-hot-in-orange-jeans Dhunki days. Anyhoo, you get my point.

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The sadly important thing is that whatever fairy that governs self-image was left uninvited at the christenings of all women on this planet. Can’t speak for those chicks in Avatar but come on, they’re BLUE, they would have more self-image issues that the most depressed of our earthling lot put together.

Mirror Mirror Upon the Wall Who is the Fairest of All

No, this is not a long weepy story to feel sorry for the stars of a super hit movie. It’s just a rather long post-it note to remind all the readers to cut themselves a little slack.

To write this post, I actually thought all of the things that have bothered me about my physical appearance in the past. Let me confess and reveal my own examination:

1.) My Nose:

It’s been one of my biggest insecurities. I was lucky at first to take after my father’s family where everyone has straight, well-sculpted noses. Now, I am amongst the youngest in the family and I only had two cousins (who were exactly my age) as my sole playmates during summer. Both were boys and so, I’ve grown up climbing trees, playing battleship and GI Joe, trying out fake martial arts moves, roaming out in the sun all day, and also being pummelled to a pulp during a fight. I was 7 when I was pushed off a flight of stairs by Mad Cousin #1 in retaliation to a kick and two years later, Mad Cousin #2 punched my face a little too hard during a fight. Both times, I hurt my nose pretty seriously and bled like a haemophiliac. Apparently, the injuries crooked my nose by 0.001%, but I noticed it only because my cousins teased me for the next couple of years for carrying that battle scar. The teasing stopped eventually but my insecurity never went away.

Mirror Mirror Upon the Wall Who is the Fairest of All

As I grew older, I was actually complimented on my nose but I always thought that people were being sweet to a badly-in-need-of-a-nose-job girl. Then, I dated this guy for nearly two years who claimed that he could see nothing wrong with my nose at all, but I told myself that he was too gormless to criticise me. It’s amazing how easily we can make excuses to feed our own insecurities. Finally, I noticed that my friends never made fun of my nose and it DEFINITELY wasn’t out of love for me because no one would leave such a chance to laugh at a friend. When confronted, they told me that they thought my nose was fine, but they have since decided to prey on my insecurity and call me crook-nosed Dumbledore now (not exactly an insult since Dumbledore was AWESOMENESS personified!).

After all these years and endless agonising in front of the mirror, I have finally decided that I do not care about the 1/1000th of an inch’s crookedness in my nose anymore. It’s not half as bad as that of ten thousand other people I know and as for the “problem” with it, it has good childhood memories attached to it, right? 😀

2.) My Height:

Ah, my height. The bloody bane of my whole existence. At 5’2”, I have been laughed at by my tall family and my unusually tall friends. My mum still blames it on my childhood habit of pouring my Bournvita milk down the drain sometimes, and it has tormented me quite a lot to be so petite. I was simply ecstatic when I moved to France and the whole population there seemed to be full of kindred spirits simply for being so vertically challenged.

Recently, I was thinking about my grandma (who died 6 years ago) and noticed that I inherited my obsessions for reading, singing, stupid jokes, and food from her. Apparently, we resemble a lot in other things too. She was barely 5 feet tall and I have realised that my height makes me her grandchild in the way nothing else can. I now believe that I can live with my height quite happily and blow up money on gorgeously killer heels instead. 😛

3.)  My Eyes:

I have a very ordinary-looking pair of those. My brother has beautiful, large eyes that have always turned me green with envy. My closest friend has Bambi-like hazel eyes and super long eyelashes that any girl would die three times over to have. I HATED guys with pretty eyes. Yes, a part of me hated my brother and my closest friend too. Really, what use would lovely eyes be to them? Guys don’t need to look pretty! I have also lost count of the number of times I have stared enviously at doe-eyed girls and blamed some obscure ancestors for passing on their ordinary-eye-genes on to me.

Then, a few years ago, I was ranting against something very minor to a friend and she burst out laughing saying that my eyes actually flashed every time I was angry. I’ve had random people compliment me that I am very expressive all because I engage other things besides my mouth while talking, my hands gesture quite a lot and my eyes express my contempt/amusement/anger/ridicule etc. There is this girl in my class who is quite pretty and has a gorgeous pair of doe eyes. However, I’ve never seen her laughter reach her eyes and I’ve never seen her eyes talk along with her mouth. Sure, I am still jealous of doe-eyed beauties with expressiveness to boot, but I don’t mind my eyes so terribly now that I know that they don’t look like they belong to a brain dead zombie.

4.) My Build:

If my height has given me cranky days, it is nothing compared to my body woes. I have a small frame and I HATE it when curvy girls whine about their weight issues because I could kill to be a few kilos heavier. The only thing that has saved me from being labelled anorexic is my normal health and my habit of stuffing myself with food everywhere I go.

Combined with my height and short hair, my tiny frame makes me look a lot younger than my age. I am 21 and I have been taken for a school kid. However, I have realised that if my luck stays the same, I will be in a very good position ten years from now and can claim to be only 25. 😛 On the negative side though, 17-year old guys still hit on me and this is not something that I take very benignly to.

To be honest, I still have those days sometimes when I don’t feel “pretty.” I think we all do. However, what I meant to say through all this is that I’m learning to stop having a private pity party about my so-called “flaws” and accept that some things can not be changed. I once read that people view us as 20% more attractive than we think we are which means that the “flaws” that we believe we have are barely noticed by others. We truly are our own worst critics.

I have also learnt that the things you hate about yourself can ALL be seen in a positive light. Most of the times, it works. Except in the case of acne perhaps. You can’t call yourself a science mini volcano project and soothe your soul. However, what you CAN do is work on your skin and make it improve with time.

Anyway, a quirky or unique look is much more beautiful than having a standard face which doesn’t stand out from thousands of other girls. In fact, I believe that if I changed a feature that makes me distinctive, I would feel less “myself.”  I like the feeling of being able to claim a flaw as distinctively mine – I’d rather make it part of my identity than make it more aesthetically pleasing.  For the most part, I believe that being interesting is so much better than being flawless. 😉

However, I know that even accepting flaws can be tough sometimes. Shift the perspective then. I remember reading somewhere that we should stop worrying about what our body looks like but focus on all the things that it can do instead. If someone makes fun of your frizzy hair or stumpy legs or a less-than-perfect nose, it’s easier to get over it when you remember you can use inject monkey brains with experimental hormones or give a brilliant Kuchipudi performance or write a killer essay on the Rise and Fall of Socialism or run a marathon or cook a mean chocolate cappuccino cake or speak seven obscure languages or simply look at a supermodel and recreate her make-up look or do anything that you love and want to do. The way your body looks has VERY little to do with who or what you are.

This post is not meant to pooh-pooh the concept of beauty and make-up. My sole aim was to rake out an issue that usually never gets talked about in the race to find the “next best thing” to correct our so-called imperfections. Sure, staying and feeling beautiful is extremely important – I spend quite some time on that myself. What is not important; however, is an unhealthy obsession for that elusive perfection and a constant self-berating attitude.

I am pretty certain that most IMBB readers have battled some self-image issue or the other in their lives. So, how do you deal with it? Have you ever considered your physical appearance to be of paramount importance to your peace of mind? How have you dealt with other people commenting on or making fun of your appearance? Have you broken their noses or simply learn to love your own? ‘Fess up and feel lighter! 🙂

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166 thoughts on ““Mirror, Mirror Upon the Wall, Who is the Fairest of All?”

  1. sweet post Jabberwocky.
    I too had weight issues during my teenage days…when my girls(friends) had gr8 figure in their 16’s ,17’s n so on….i was very slim n my weight was 38 kgs….nothing helped …but the best part…’i was n i am always in luv with myself’!!

            1. Hahaha! I was just about to exclaim about your age being 52 too! :lol2: :lol2: Good thing you clarified that it was just the weight. 😆
              I am going to pray that someday I also reach the late 40s – in weight, I mean. :silly: :silly:

            2. hawwwwwwwww :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: :yikes:

              heheheh……….my bad :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :toothygrin: sowwieee :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:

  2. very intresting article Jabberwocky…
    I felt like u wrote my mind..
    Sometimes when people say i look pretty or beautiful , i really doubt them.. Are they being nice to me., or they making fun of me?
    That height is part is like OMG.. I belong to a family of gullivers and i am 5”1.. u described here hw it feels…
    Above everythng when i look at my skin, i feel so bad.. I am nt saying i becomes green with envy, bt inside my mind, i asks Gd, y with me??

    These are only one side…
    When i see children on the road, or such thngs I realize hw lucky i am.. I got a grt family, frnds, everythng tht a girl needs.
    Then y the hell i should compalint to God? Its hw gals are made i tnk.. 😆

    1. That’s so true, Visakhi! :haanji: Every time I step out and see the countless destitute people on the roads, I feel terribly guilty about whining about being a few kilos lighter or about the shape of my silly nose. Gratitude really helps in this situation.
      But I do agree that girls just can’t help complaining about some aspect of their looks or the other. It’s just wired into us. 😛 😛

  3. “I believe that being interesting is so much better than being flawless. “- well said!!!! I really really believe this is true….actually i agree with most of what you said…..except the fact tht people view us 20% better than we do ourself…..i get a lot of criticism for my weight from my family and my bf :waaa: :scream: :headbang: :headbang:

    1. Don’t worry about the weight issues too much, Oopsii. People always tend to criticise others for that. The 20% fact may still be true for you. For all you know, your family and your bf think you’re super pretty despite your weight. 😀 😀

  4. lovely post :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :puchhi: :puchhi: :puchhi: missing ur pic in this post ?:) ?:) ?:) ?:) :waaa: :waaa: :waaa: :waaa: :waiting: :waiting: :waiting:

  5. Your post are always so good JW….its like enjoying the ride at disneyland!! :joker: :joker: :joker: For eyes even I use to feel the same in my growing years as my brother got beautiful big eyes with lovely lashes :haanji: :haanji: ….what a waste :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:

  6. awesome article!!! :yes: :yes:
    I could totally relate to everything!! 😀
    nose, eyes, height and build(seriously, I hate it when I see other girls trying to lose, when I’m struggling to gain some kilos!! 😛 😛 )

    1. Thanks! :woot: :woot: And I totally feel your pain! Who the hell says it’s easy to gain weight? :waiting: I gain 2 kilos in 6 months and then end up losing 4 all because of a few skipped meals or exam stress. 😮 :scream:

      1. seriously!! its not easy to gain!!! i gained 2.5 kg recently after following strict diet and I was sooo happy. But this month lost weight again during exams!! :waaa: :waaa: :waaa:

  7. Jabberwocky… u ve written wt most of us feel everyday abt smthin or othr abt our luks..
    Kudos for this post… :high5: :puchhi: :puchhi:

  8. Well the post is good and will resonate with young adults and teenagers for sure, but that is not to say that with age we don’t have problems with our own self image, I just reckon with time other stuff take up our time and we end up unconsciously undermining ourselves less often, because out there is a lot of other people just ready to put you down anyways as long as you allow then.

    I know it’s much easier said then done, but with time and experience the saying is true ‘this too shall pass’ and in fact everything passes 🙂

    1. Very well said, Deb. I think it’s true that you stress about your looks less as you grow older. I have already noticed the change in myself. Perhaps acceptance comes easily once teenage hormones are not wreaking havoc in your mind. :silly: :silly:

  9. nice..u described my feelings..on skin and height thing…i hav been battling acne for so many years…its still there…and i hate my skin for that

    1. You know, it’s very easy to get negative like this. I always prefer to focus on the good things while fighting the bad. Maybe your skin is causing acne but the positive thing is that the extra oil will delay your wrinkles someday. 😀 😀

  10. Hey Jw awesumish post.. :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: .. I totally agree with ur most of the points..
    It is so much fun to read ur article.. 😆 😆 😆 ..
    U know i had a roomie who has nothing great except clear sking and lean body :huh: :huh: :huh: but she used to make fun of my height ( 5’1′) and my body structure (heavy thighs and all).. :scream: :scream: :scream:..
    Sometimes i used to feel like giving her a good dose.. :bash: :bash: :bash: .
    But i managed by making fun of her dance moves.. 😆 😆 😆 ..

    1. Oh God, I HATE such people. :reallyangry: It’s great that you found a way to get your own back. :high5: I do that very often too. No matter how flawless your tormentor may seem, there’ll always be some problem with them – stupidity, bad singing skills, body odour, two left feet, bad breath, horrible fashion sense, anything – and that helps in shutting them up. 😀 :phoolan:

  11. This is such an excellent article JW….and I so agree with everything you’ve written…I’ve always been super conscious about my over-weight body…and my height…It took me a long time to get over my depression…though I still get low-blow days feeling pity over these things, I have learned to pull myself up and just focus on the good things I have and feel thankful about it..Your articles are a treat to read!! Amazinggg job!! :waytogo:

    1. Thank you, Kimi. 😀 Glad to know that you’ve mostly got over your weight issues. It’s not always easy and I too get those low-blow days too. But I guess as long as they’re a minority, it’s all fine. :happydance: :happydance:

  12. i had a great time reading your article jabby! it’s soooo entertaining! :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: you’re absolutely right about women having body image issues.
    i am almost 5’5′ and i still feel tiny! :methinks: and my bf has beautiful brown eyes with looong lashes which makes me :green: :green: :green:
    oh n yea i have fat triangular nose which keeps annoying me when i look into the mirror! :yuck:
    thankfully, my bf still finds me pretty! :)) :)) :mirror:

    1. 5’5″ and still tiny? 😮 I hang out with people who are all 5’8″ and above, and I feel positively dwarf-like. :waiting: You are SO DAMN TALL in comparison! 😀 😀

    1. Thankee, Rati! :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: And so true about the lovey-dovey people. As long as the few people who matter accept you as you are, it seems all fine. :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :dance:

  13. Hmm… incidentally, I never had any thoughts, positive or negative, about my looks or body. I have always had a world of my own alive inside me and I’ve been too engrossed in that world. My mind is always fermenting with ideas…

    Or maybe these complexes are just side-effects of not having enough beer. Who knows. O:)

    1. side-effects of not having enough beer :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars: :tremble: :tremble: :tremble: :tremble: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

      1. Beer mere league mein nai hai. Only nimbu pani and sprite for me. :shy: :shy: But I get plenty of sugar to make up for thoughts of that nature. :dumb: :hihi:

    2. Haha, yes, I am pretty sure that this is an advanced scientific breakthrough. :woot: :woot: If I have a daughter someday, I shall force feed her beer from infancy itself. 😀 She’ll grow up to be complex free. :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :mirror:

  14. hey JW, lovely article…. :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: I so much want to read more and more from you…I have fat triangular nose which refuses to straighten up :yikes: :yikes: :yikes: ….but now I completely ignore it… :specs: :specs: :specs: I have a very wonderful smile…a curve that straightens up every depression hit individual around me… :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :toothygrin: so me good and moved over the nosey issue… :mirror: :mirror: :mirror:

    1. Thankee, Akhila! :woot: It is brilliant how you take it all so positively and focus on your pretty smile instead. :thumbsup: 😀 😀

  15. Awesome post,hun! I really felt every little word her and I feel as cosy as a kid with a giant(and warm) teddy bear. :teddy: :teddy:
    I actually suffer from low self-esteem (100% true and no,I’m not just an attention seeker) and these teenage hormones aren’t helping my issue one bit. :bash: 😥
    I’m very much over weight.Like,really fat. Or Chubby. Think “squishy pillow body” sort of fat.I’ve been a good old ball of jelly for as long as I can recall.Everyone I know agrees that I’m fat. So fat that my friends like to call me a :bomb: . :shame: And no….not the “Hawt” sort of bomb.We’re talking canon ball bomb here,folks. So yeah…my biggest insecurity.Ever. Yup. :shame: :shame: :secret2: :secret2:
    My second insecurity…Is my Billboard-Brow. And my thin and sad hair. They both combine to form a killer combo. So my hairstyles are limited and often rather awkward. 😐 My classmates think this insecurity of mine is amusing. :huh: :huh:
    So yeah. Sorry for ranting so much. :blush: :blush: :dumb: :dumb: But these insecurities don’t stop me from preeening all the time. :preen:

    1. Oh wait…I can’t help but preen a little more,but I’ve been told that my smile and laughter can light up any room. :preen: :preen: :yahoo: :yahoo:

    2. I think you’re cute. :haanji:
      And I don’t know you personally, but you sound like you’re fun. :puchhi:
      The next time those people say anything to you, tell them “Yothaw rimpin yezooo!!!” And watch their face. They won’t know what you just said, and hopefully they’ll shut their mouths after that, fearing some ancient curse.
      Of course, you wouldn’t know what you said either, but they don’t know that, now, do they? :tongue:

    3. pragya.. whenever i read ur comments i miss my school days…. i really enjoyed the post u did with the silver earrings… ur soooo funny… and ur name is so unique.. :teddy:

      1. @Samantha: :blush: Thanks so much,dear. And the feeling is mutual. Your posts really make me smile and giggle. :dumb:
        :lol2: :lol2: Brilliant idea,I say! I’ll try that tomorrow. :joker: :shying: One time…A girl was being extremely rude and making fun of my name and I just started reciting the Greek alphabet in her face. She shut up. :joker: :happydance:

        @ife: Aww! I’m glad I could bring back some (hopefully) sweet memories of yours! :puchhi: :puchhi: Just call me when you want a good laugh.I make some mean funny faces. :victory2: And thank you!You’re too sweet! :puchhi:

        1. Aww, Pragny! :puchhi: I’ve seen your pics and you’re totally cute! :puppy: :puppy: Don’t listen to the idiots around you. Most of the time, people who are this rude are all jealous of you. And the next time someone makes fun of your weight, say that you can easily lose it and look uber awesome in just weeks but what will they do about their incurable stupidity. :silly: :phoolan:

          And the brow and the hair – that shouldn’t be an issue. A few parlour visits and some experiments can help you out in good time. :toothygrin: :toothygrin:

          1. @JW: Hihi!~ Thankoo so much! :teddy: I’ve already plugged my yers and followed Samantha’s advice…so things are rolin’ pretty smooth already. :shy: Now,all that is left is to drop some more pounds by the time my birthday is round the corner. :jog: And yes…idiots shall remain idiots. :hihi:
            I plan on getting a makeover this winter break…so yeah.That’s sorted as well. :yahoo:

  16. amazing article nav :waytogo: :waytogo: :waytogo: can so much relate to this :preen: :preen:
    and ur dry skin acne article, it was awesome…a problem which i face

  17. I am a huge fan of yours JW…… :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: you just seem to read our thoughts and minds……you have psychic powers :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails :chewnails

    1. Thankee, Jomol! :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :woot:

      And yes, I’m totally psychic. :phoolan: I can tell what’s going on in your mind right now. :jalwa: I know that you want to buy that pair of gold bangles you saw in the shop yesterday but you’re not sure yet because you just bought 10 pairs of earrings. 😛 Also, you want to blow up money on half the items in the latest Oriflame catalogue but are just waiting for Christmas to splurge. :silly: :silly:
      That will be half a million bucks for the reading, please. 😀 😀 :dance: :dance:

      1. JW…………..you seriously rock :jiggy1: :jiggy1: :jiggy1: :jiggy1: :jiggy1: :jiggy1: :jiggy1: …….charansparsh again :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho: :jaiho:

  18. Amazing article JW..I am too 5’2,and coincidently i inherited it from my maternal grandma same pinch 😀
    It took me quite a while to get over the fact that I wasnt going to grow anymore taller,my younger sister is actually taller than me ! 😐 But never the less,I have almost got over it 🙂
    We are all pretty and fabulous in our own ways :happydance:

    1. Yes, it took me quite some time to get over my baby brother being taller too. Eventually, I learnt to accept my shortness. :toothygrin: It’s always easy if we can learn to focus on even one good trait of ours. :dance: :happydance:

  19. sch a lovely artcle as always! well..d appearance part keeps goin on 4 me but only lightly xcept me gettin wrinkles at d age of 21;( n bout d fun makin part, i lov laughin at myself:D n 4d mean cmnts, who cares..i affected deir lives,dey dint affect mine:p:D god bless u:)

      1. What a great way to look at things Heena that you affected their lives and not they yours! I’ll keep this mind. It’s so true and positive. Thanks! :puchhi:

        1. hehe thanks jab:) ..u see, dere comes a saturation point in ur life wn u get tired of fixing things 4 no faults of urs..dn u realize dat u dnt need certain pple n deir crap:D so,b happy!

  20. just yesterday i was thinking what is the one thing that i would change about myself…hmm definitely my pigmented lips… ha ha… 😉 thinking about permanent tatoo if i could sometime in the future… this article gives such a feel-good feeling inside….
    always always count your blessings… that is the greatest thing we can do for ourselves…

  21. Jabberwocky!! Excellent article it was! you really have awesome writing skills. Please write more often :puchhi: :puchhi: :puchhi:

    About that Height part. ahhh yes. Im short 😐 Infact my younger sister is 2-3 inches taller than me. :yikes:
    I had no problem with my height unless people started commenting on how Short I look and how it would be difficult to find a suitable match for me 😐
    ok I don’t believe that but yes I do feel insecure of my tiny frame since all my sisters and friends are usually taller than me :hunterwali: :hunterwali:

    1. It’s the same with my sister and me! She’s 4 years older than I am, and she’s 8 inches shorter. Go figure.
      But she’s way cleverer, she can cook :P, she’s a doctor, she has feet that can actually fit in shoes sized less than 13, and she’s a wonderful human being.
      So I know it’s hard, and it’s all very well for me to say this, since I’m 5’8, but try thinking of things like this that apply to you, and hopefully you’ll feel better! :puchhi:

    2. OMG! LOL @ that match comment! 😆 That’s so typical! I’ve had snide remarks being passed about how my height will affect my chances of marriage. I generally am not the quiet kinds and respond with retorts like how I’ll go to Lilliput to find a husband or get married to a Japanese guy. That usually helps. 😀 😀

      Everyone around me is taller than me too. I have learnt to ignore it by asserting that they may be taller but I am smarter :specs: 😛 (say it often enough and they’ll believe that too. :silly: )

      1. Aww……….Thank you so much samantha for those lovely words! puchhi for you- :puchhi: :puchhi: :puchhi: 😛 Btw…..I can cook too! :dance:
        and Jabberwocky- I’ll certainly use your Japanese guy wali technique ! 😆 😆 😀

  22. awesome post JW… me too 5’2″… n dnt like how ma nose looks… but accepted it all… n was contented with all wat i’ve… O:) O:) O:) this post reminded me of all my worries n concerns during ma teens… n yeah that looking younger is fine but 17 yr old boy hitting on u is seriously :pan: :pan: :pan: :pan: :pan: :pan: :pan: :pan: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:

    1. I’m almost fifteen…and I’ve had a guy who’s probably 20+ hit on me. 😐 :yikes: I’d rather be baby faced when it comes to situations like those. :shutmouth: :shutmouth:

      1. he he he 😆 😆 😆 😆 enjoy… but i must say he’ much much experienced than u wen it cums to relnshps.. so u better avoid him… if u’ve no probs in doing that… this is wat i personally feel… wese lil flirty typo thing adds spice to lyf… if u can handl.. just chill… it’s awesome to be loved by ppl… 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉 😉

      2. Haha, you ARE baby faced, Pragny! :toothygrin: :toothygrin: That guy was just trying his luck probably. It’s a kinda like an adventure to hit on school girls too, perhaps. :silly:

        1. @Keirti: I can handle flirting….but I also see the age group. I can’t help but think “Bhaiyya” whenever I see some guy who’s older than me and hitting on me. :nono: :nono:

          @JW: Flirting iss type ki bhi hoti hai? :stars: :stars:

          1. yeah…i also hv such feelings 4 guys older thn me… i smhow nt lik to flirt wit ppl yrs older thn me.. :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars: :stars:
            n yeah here i wanna answr ur questn for JW also k flirting kisi b typ ki ho skti hai… i fav tym pass of my clg classmates to hit on a sch gal… they r easy for them to handle compared to gals f same age grp… :secret2: :secret2: :secret2: :secret2: :secret2: :secret2: :secret2:

            1. i smhow dnt* lik to flirt wit ppl yrs older thn me..
              its* fav tym pass of my clg classmates to hit on a sch gal… oops 4 ma typing mistakes… :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :toothygrin:

    2. Yeah, considering the fact that not much can be done to change certain things, acceptance is always the sensible option. 😀
      And that 17-year old thingie – yeah, well, that happened when I once hang out with a young cousin’s friends. :lol2: Guys at this age are so damn cocky that they go partially blind with their smugness, I think. 😮 😛

  23. Awww JW!!! I love this post! :))
    After I moved here, people made fun of two things – my hair, and my accent.
    At first I used to feel simply awful because that was the first time I’d ever heard people saying such mean things to me, for no ‘fault’ of mine. But that just taught me to be resilient, and now I don’t care when people say such stuff.
    Of course, even now, at work, every single day, believe me, EVERY single day, there is someone or the other who has to say something about either my hair, or the way I pronounce some or the other word. Like for instance, today, someone at work asked me, “What’s wrong with your hair?”
    Yeah, sucks. :-/
    And now you have to deal with all of us here ranting our souls out on your shoulder because of your super-duper awesome article, me included :toothygrin: :vampire:

    1. Samantha people make fun of your accent because they are jealous, since they can’t have foreign accent. TRUST ME O:) O:) O:) O:)

        1. Sam – I truly agree with Akshi that people make fun of you because they are jealous, :huh: I have seen it most of the times… simply because something u have which is unique and they dnt have or cant get that, so this is the way the remove their frustration… :scream: so whenever people criticize u or make fun of you, feel happy because u have something better than them :jiggy1:

    2. oops! i make fun of my mauritian friend who has a cute french accent…but not in a mean way ofcourse. i always make sure that she knows i am only kidding.
      and BTW, i love your curls! :puppy: :puppy: some people just don’t have basic manners…

      1. Hey Tinkerbell :))
        Nah… this is in a mean way :-/ and I try not to care, but there are some days when I just get so angry about it!
        And thank you! :)) :puppy: :puppy: :puppy: I like puppies 😀 😀

    3. Awww! :puchhi: Be strong as you are! They’re just j because they don’t have an accent. Only regular engliss. :shying:
      And your hair is actally very cute! :teddy: Fluffy and pretty. Perfect for a cute headband. :pigtail:

      1. Thank you, Pragnyadeepta!!! :puchhi:
        Actually, every one has an accent. Only thing, theirs is different from mine. :puppy: I can tell them that, but then they’ll just feel ‘happy’ and ‘great’. Weird, I know; so I just keep my mouth shut. :tongue:
        I now want a headband with bunny ears!!! :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :toothygrin: :turtle: :turtle: :turtle:

        1. Samantha… you make me love curls… your hair is so sft and playful and cute 🙂
          I loved you in your last post!!!
          some people are really $$#%%#$#@$%##@$#$
          they can find fault in anya nd everything….. grrrrr

          1. Good grief! :scream: People can be such turds. I hate it when Indians make fun of a foreigner’s accent and I’ve seen it happen way too often. Then, we turn around and whine that the West is racist. Total BS. Don’t listen to them, Samantha. Most of them are probably jealous. :reallyangry:
            And I LOVE your hair! :inlove: They’re so pretty. I’d much rather have curls like those than my naturally straight limp hair. And next time someone asks you what is wrong with your hair, give your curls a pretty toss and say something like – “They just can’t take the mean comments passed on them every day. So, they’ve curled up in a beautiful way and are sulking.” 😛 :silly: :phoolan:

            1. Thank you so much, Jabberwocky! :))
              Ha ha 🙂 I’m Indian too. Of Portuguese descent, but still Indian. Psssh. Plus my last name’s Portuguese, which makes it doubly hard.
              It sucks that we Indians poke fun at our own people, then whine that others are racist toward us. And then we got to poke fun at others too. So basically we poke fun at every one. I’m not saying all of us do that, but the ones I’ve met do! :((
              And I’m not even white-looking! I shudder to think what these people would have done if I were! They would have probably eaten me up by now! :tongue:
              And that made me snicker so much and rub my hands together gleefully!!! I will say that the next time someone says something about my hair 😀 😀 😀

  24. You can’t call yourself a science mini volcano project and soothe your soul. :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
    awesome article jabberwocky…!!! i needed to read this… i comaplin way too much about myself to my self :((

  25. Nice article JW.. I am tall, good looking, fair, intelligent, rich, toned :shying: (aside: advertising myself O:) ) and what really makes me feel low is either stayiing idle or sleeping a lot :ghost2:

      1. LOL @ the advertisement! 😆 Ladke yahan nahin milenge. This is a totally girl-dominated kingdom here. You will never see 70+ comments by guys on a post discussing looks. :silly: :toothygrin:

  26. Pragny, meri maa ladke dhoond rai hai meri shaadi ke liye ..aise hi bolti hai wo :rotfl: .. jab bhi wo kahi se aati hai main ye hi poochti hun, kar aye mera advertisement bhi :tongue: :lol2:

  27. Aw you guys! This post made me feel so much better about this whole stupid thing! I mean, it’s not really something to make a big deal of, and there is obviously much worse that can happen to a person, but you guys are so nice and supportive; and I don’t even know you guys in regular life. You guys are gems of a person! (gems of people?? gems of persons? gem of persons?) 😀
    Thank you so much all of you!
    It’s just tiny things like this that make a person’s day (or night :P) and gosh, Jabberwocky, I think I’ll just have to give you that golden amulet you’ve been looking for this past week. I confess I hid it behind the couch, but now I’ll give it to you as a way of saying thanks for this article!

    1. Aww Samantha! :drool: I’m so happy that this post helped you out so much! And I think the most wonderful thing about IMBB is the fact that you find so much support from totally wonderful strangers here! :puchhi: I’m relatively new to this place and already in total love. :inlove: :inlove:

      And yayeee! :yahoo: Thankee for the golden amulet! :woot: :woot: :woot: I’m going to flaunt it everywhere now. :preen: :dance: :happydance: :happydance:

  28. Butt pads! :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: :lol2: Too much, man! Hahahaha. People do all kinds of crazy things in show business. 😆

    1. Hellaw Beauties..I live in Brazil..& you might find it weird as in normal lingerie shops Butt-lifting-pads are available alongwith push-up bras for non-celebrities..and they are being sold abundantly too.. :preen:

  29. SUCH an awesome post JW.. I’m having a bad hair day n this article just made me feel a lot better :toothygrin: :toothygrin:
    I’ve always had friends who pull faces when I try out a dress saying “U might wanna try out the next size” EVEN when its the right size!!!!!! :pan:
    I’m now 8 kilos lighter.. And I realized that I could be a size zero n they’d STILL find a flaw in me anyway… But I still get a kick out of their expressions when I meet them now :vampire: :vampire:
    Oh, and I found new friends to shop with :jiggy1:
    LOVE ur post JW.. And that sense of humour of urs is worth a million bucks..!!!!!! :puchhi:

    1. Thankee, Ramya! :woot: :woot:

      And God, what terrible people! I HATE it when people pick on others simply for their weight. :(( Great thing that you found new friends and a new size too. :happydance: 😀 😀

      1. Kepp such posts coming gal!!!! U have a gift for writing.. :waytogo: :waytogo: N best of all, u make the ppl who read ur stuff smile :)) Even on their bad days when they’d have the least reason to smile.. :haanji:
        V find ppl who r tall or have perfect noses everywhere.. But urs? Thats a one-in-million gift. :puchhi: :puchhi:

  30. Hey good post! I was terribly skinny in my teens, but then most of the voluptuous girls then are fat today, and I’m a decent weight! So! You write well.

    1. Thank you, Shai. :toothygrin: Good to hear that skinny teens tend to stay relatively normal in later years. Gives me a lot of hope. 😀 :happydance:

  31. hey just read this article. sorry to get in so late into the action.. but ya i relate to it as well. A sister who is 5’8″ and who is super talented (sings ike wowwww) and has done all te right things in life..here at 5′ 2 1/2″ (or 5’3 1/2″ depending on which doc i get my height checked at :lol2: :lol2: ) its quite depressing but I think we all have our unique-ness and thats what makes us special. and most of all ppl get attracted to happy ppl so I think there is hope for all..

    awesome post..had a blast reading it

    1. I totally know that feeling. I have older cousins who are all “better” than me – better people, better looking, *taller*, politer, more talented and what not. It’s a terrible pain to tolerate it at first but I agree with you that we all have our own unique traits. Takes some time to come to terms with it but it happens eventually. 😀

  32. Aru….tight hugs :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: :puchhi: :puchhi: :puchhi: :puchhi: but I too have a sister who is perfect, talks wisely and maturely, has straight long hair, knows how to treat everyone with kindness and affection, thinks for others, believes that the world is full of good people and is treated with awe…..and here I am ……I think the world is full of bad people, I think for myself first and then about others, I don’t have straight long hair, I don’t think showing kindness matters, I don’t act maturely, and I get reprimanded for acting childishly…..sabke sishters hi acche hai :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :(( :((

    1. Aw Jomol. Even if your sister is so cool, you are awesome too. :puchhi: You use cute smileys, are funny, have a great taste (aka obsession for gold) and have a super cute son. What else can anyone want? 😀 😀 😀

      1. JW…..yahhhhhhhhhh….sacchiiiiiiiiii….me happy now :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance: :happydance:

      2. totally ..Jomol – :teddy: :teddy: :teddy: u r too damn cute..

        when I am in a nice mood like I am in now, i can see all the sense in the world but it takes one nonsensical comment from someone and that can just bring the whole world down.

        but its so cool to share these thought with u guys..love ya.. :puchhi: :puchhi:

  33. but my sister is a darling….she reads my mind and knows what I need……she’s my pillar of strength and support 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥 😥

    1. oh baby.. :teddy: :teddy: bigggg hugs..sisters are really that pillar of strength. my folks wudnt let me go anywhere without her..but you know somewhere becos I was the kid of the family i got pampered more, i got what i wanted..had its advantages too. in hindsight, its not so bad but when you are growing up it can be the worst..for some that low self esteem can remain the rest of their lives.

  34. Great article 🙂 :yes: I can totally relate to this too ! I have soo many insecurities right from my skin to my extremely huge feet ! I m sometimes scared to talk to attractive people ! Really..tho I still haven’t found a way around my insecurities…this article helped a lot !Knowing everyone has issues and how they deal with them.. :thanks: :thanks:

    1. :waytogo: ya in the end its not even about how good looking you are but just accepting who you are and trying to be the best given the limitations. easier said than done :stars: :ghost2: :ghost2: honestly for e.g while I like how Aishwarya looks, i would prefer a movie with Vidya Balan (way sexier) or kareena kapoor..

  35. I know what you mean! Some people are gorgeous but some people are just so attractive that we’re just drawn to them naturally inspite of the way they look! hehe tho both Vidya and Kareena r soo pretty! :waytogo:

    1. ya but these 2 ladies dont have that ‘beauty’ that ash has na? the eyes, the skin, the hair..i remember one foto of Ash just after Devdas had released at the Cannes festival with SRK and sanjay leela bhansali..i mean she was beautiful personified..she was a yellow sari..man she looked gorgeous!!! but vidya balan in parineeta? that was something too..btw, havent seen ‘The Dirty picture’ yet

      1. Parineeta ..what a movie ! SO refreshing ! I know..India loooves all fair skinned beauties!
        Even I wanna see it .Vidya Balan :jaiho: !!!!!!!

  36. Ooooh I agree!!! Actually even in Ishqiya there was some charm abt her even with the deglamorized clothes.. I LOVE Vidya… :yahoo:
    Has anybody seen The Dirty Picture yet…?

    1. Ramya….Dirty picture is a major hit it seems…..and Rati has watched it :woot: :woot: :woot: :woot: :woot: :woot: :woot:

          1. I will!!!!!!! I love Vidya too n I find her to be the only actress who can look HOTTT in the most ethnic wear :yahoo: Dirty Picture here I come… Oooh la la Ooh la la :whistle: :whistle: :whistle:

  37. Your articles are pleasure to read Jab! :rose:
    When someone offers you a gift and you decline to accept it the giver still owns the gift, the same rule applies to insults and verbal attacks. Its not the situation but its how u react to that particular situation that matters :balle:

  38. @Jomol!
    Sisters are angels O:)
    i have 2 elder sisters O:) Blessed indeed!!

    Nice article girl!
    it reminded me of 1 funny incident..here it goes..
    I am generally complimented (too much) abt my looks!
    once i had gone to goa and lost my earing sumwhere..when we were abt to go on one of those cruises..i was feeling so awkward,ki earing nahi pehna..i look so odd! then while i was waiting in the queue, the entire janta present there was staring at me..right from chote,bade,men,women….just abt every1!!! And i kept feeling terrible..ki i m looking so bad that pl r looking @ me 🙁
    aftr some time, d friend who was wid me just casually mentioned ki ‘kaise sab log teri taraf ghur rahe hai’ and i started cribbing ki i m looking aweful cuz i dint wear a earing!!! she laughed her a** off!!!!!!! it was aftr she told me i realised that ppl were staring cuz i was looking pretty!!!(though it was hard to believe… bt i so wanted to believe it)gosh.. abhi yaad karti hoon toh bahut hasi aati hai…. :tongue:

  39. what a great post jabberwocky. I love such honest from-the-heart posts with no amount of hyposcrisy and a lot of introspection involved. Your sense of humour as usual is of paramount importance to imbb,compared to our physical characteristics hehe. do keep posting 😛 If i could subscribe to you alone,believe me i would. O:) O:)

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