How many of you are going through this phase where you are afraid to tell your parents about your boyfriend because you kind of already know that they would disapprove! Or have you told them already and are now bearing the brunt of disapproval? My parents are completely against the concept of love marriages, so when they will get to know about my neighbour/boyfriend of 4 years, they will kill me! Here are few tips to find a place of solace for all of those involved!
1. Don’t be pushy
Just because you have decided to spend your life with certain someone does not mean that your parents will also like that someone right away. Don’t force your decision on them.
2. Give them some time
They won’t say yes to your relationship in 1 or 2 days. It might take weeks or probably months. Give them plenty of time to adjust and admit to the fact that their little girl has found someone on her own.
3. Have a hearty conversation
Open your heart to your parents. No matter how hurt or angry they are, they will listen to you. Talk to them about the guy in your life and tell them everything. Sometimes when all else fails, a good and open conversation can really be of great help.
4. Don’t take a side
It is not a game. There are so many lives involved in the process. Don’t feel that your family is wrong and your partner is everything. Maintain a balance and never belittle your partner or your parents.
5. Answer all their doubts patiently
Your parents might be having a thousand questions about the guy in your life. Their timing might be off in asking those questions but never lose your patience. Affirm your love for them and your general respect for their opinions by answering and solving all their queries about the guy.
6. Set up a meeting
Involve your guy more in the process. Set up a meeting of your guy and your family. Let them figure out some things on their own about your partner. Prepare your guy well in advance about what he is in for! And if the first meeting doesn’t go as expected, then don’t lose hope; set up another meeting when you think the time is right.
7. Decide what you want!
Introspect yourself if you feel that nothing is working and your parents will never agree to your relationship. Analyse whether your relationship is worth all the pain and drama. If your answer is yes, then do what you have to do! The last option would be to choose (I hope that time never comes).
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