Five Reasons Why Your Hair Isn’t Listening to You
Okay, now if you just read the title and snorted in triumph, I’m guessing you’re one of the few women whose hair actually listens to them. It stays how you want it to, it doesn’t suddenly extend in all directions apart from downward, and it doesn’t do jumping jacks without your permission or with; I mean come on, it’s just hair!
All in all, it’s good and perfect. If you don’t belong to this coveted clan, congratulations!!!! You’re either one of the majority of women globally who feel so or you are a member of the Aloopa Society. I’ve heard they’ve stopped taking in new members for the past year or so, so it’s most likely the former.
Now, I’m not any sort of expert on the matter nor have I gone to the Beauty School and learnt about hair texture, porosity, etc. However, I do know what generally works and what doesn’t, through experience. Make that experiments.
Do you feel like this most of the time?
Then read on,
Reason #1: You starve it.
Simply put, if you starve your hair, it will just refuse to listen to you. Try sitting in an empty room with a hungry and cranky toddler, and you’ll see what I mean. Feed your hair whatever it needs. If it needs conditioner, feed it some. If it requires a protein snack, smother it in a protein-rich hair mask.
Reason #2: You listen to the bottle.
If you listen to the bottle, your hair won’t listen to you. Probably, think of it this way – your hair isn’t on talking terms with that gorgeous bottle of shampoo with pictures of fruit on it that you have sitting in your shower stall. So, what if the bottle tells you to use a palmful of shampoo, lather up, rinse and repeat? Just don’t listen. More often than not, our hair doesn’t need the second shampooing. The second time just serves to dry out hair and dried out hair isn’t exactly the most fun thing in the world now, is it?
Your conditioner bottle tells you to use a ‘dime-sized amount’. Really?! Those directions are for wimps. Pour out a good amount of conditioner and let your hair saturate in it, and leave it on for at least 3 minutes. Is your hair listening to you yet?
Reason #3: You listen to others.
No one’s telling you to NOT listen to others. However, it doesn’t mean you’ve got to be a zombie with no mind of your own. You know those people who tell you stuff like “Don’t wash your hair every day, or it’ll shrivel up and fall out of your head”? Yeah, they’re either members of the We Like Sweat and Gunk Club (WLSG Club) or participants in the Hair Needs to Wallow in Its Own Filth Rally (HNWOF Rally). Either way, it doesn’t bode well for you.
If you feel your head needs a wash daily, go ahead and do just that. In this tropical climate of India, you can’t really afford to wash your hair only every four days or so. You tend to sweat, and all that salt mixed with the dust your hair catches when you go outdoors shouldn’t really be stewing on your head for 3-4 days. Just make sure to use good products, and mild shampoo, and follow up with lots of rich conditioner.
Reason #4: You don’t listen to yourself.
Only you know what’s best for your hair! Millions of people can tell you what to use for it and what to do with it, but the ultimate choice is yours. You’re the one who washes it, brushes it, ties, it, twirls it, and the one whose scalp it grows out of. Do take advice and tips from others (like you’re doing now from me), but do also ponder over whether you think it will work for you. When it comes to your hair, you’re the expert. The Emperor. The Pharaoh.
Reason #5: You torture it.
If your hair feels like it’s being tortured, it probably is and you know you need to stop doing so. For one, stop flat-ironing it so much. When you heat your hair to such high temperatures, the water in your hair boils and weakens the area, causing hair to go brittle and break off in those areas. This also means no pulling and tugging at your hair with a brush. Use a good quality brush if you must, or use a comb and comb means a wide-toothed one, with no seams on it. If you can’t find a seamless wide-toothed comb, you can sandpaper the seams away. However, make sure you don’t leave any jagged bits that can pull at your hair and snag it. Wooden combs are the best. Try to avoid the cheapie plastic ones and never ever use combs with closely set together teeth. They are bad. Repeat after me – They are BAAAAD! They may give the appearance of well-kept and smooth hair, but what they really do is break your hair off in tiny pieces, causing those nasty fly-aways in the front of your head and in order to smooth them out, you use it again, causing even more. It’s a vicious cycle, really.
Those tight ponytails and pulled back hairstyles that look fabulous? What about them, you say? Imagine yourself many, many years down the line, with a very much-receded hairline. Now, do you still want to tie your hair that tight all the time?
So, there you have a few reasons for your hair not listening to you and don’t look at me that way; you know you’re guilty of it too. :haanji:
Yes, I’m not kidding. These little steps can make a world of a difference to your hair. By the way, I am not all talk and no show. This is a picture of my hair as on November 13, 2011. Sorry about the blackened out part in the background – I didn’t mean for it to get in the picture, actually.
So go ahead, and take small steps toward a gorgeous head of hair. It’s the doing that actually counts!
Till next time, with love,
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