Pregnancy is a time of emotional upheaval- while you may be overjoyed at the prospect of a little baby’s arrival in your life, you’ll also be scared about all the responsibilities motherhood brings. Couple that with your raging hormones and ever changing body and whaddaya have? A stressful time. Among all the solicited and unsolicited advice you get, a few things get left out. Things that you ultimately figure out on your own but have a harrowing time in the process. Again, nobody talks to you about beauty, right? I mean who has time for vanity when they are pregnant, right? Wrong! At the time when your body is bloating up, you need something to assure you about your beauty; if only people would understand that… sigh! In this post, I’ll share my learnings. Maybe some of you will benefit from it…
1. Pregnancy Glow is highly overrated! Trust me, the glow does not come from just being pregnant. If you change over to a better diet and avoid fried, fast, fatty food, the skin improves. That will happen to a non pregnant woman too. But some women like me, grow to a tired looking sullen skin, and that is because I stopped using all cosmetic products on my face. Reason is someone told me that all chemicals can be absorbed by the placenta through the skin. So, your baby gets the lotions and the creams you use. I was advised to stop using perfumes and deos too! ( which I did not by the way) But you get the point, right? I used just oil to moisturize my face. That turned out to be a big disaster. Much later, I realized I could have gone and used kitchen skin care like besan, malai, milk, curd, orange, papaya etc. If you are planning on having a baby, try some herbal / natural products before you conceive and stick to them. Do not try any new product during pregnancy. Allergies will be very bad for your baby.
2. Maternity Clothes are not overrated! Overpriced, yes but not overrated. If you are an office going girl, you need those maternity pants. However, A BIG CAUTION here. Do not buy them before your belly starts to show. I did that mistake and got very little use out of my maternity pants. I already have a visible belly and so I thought my bulge will be huge. Hence I brought the pants in a size larger than my regular pants very early on in the pregnancy (read month 2). Strangely enough, my bulge did not show very prominently till about 6 months! I was wearing my regular pants till 5 months. Lycra tights and flowy kurtas suited me just fine. They were trendy, comfy and hid my bulge very well. In fact, ppl at work didn’t know I was pregnant till I told them. Anyway, the point is that your shape will change differently than anyone else. So wait till your belly starts to get a visible bulge and then go to the maternity store. You can make do with one or two trousers and one pair of jeans. Also look out for a regular stretch jeans. If you find that I would advise using that instead of maternity jeans. I wore mine till the eighth month.
These are typical belly support jeans. You’d have something similar in pants too. I found these more comfortable as compared to underbump options. Those sit really low and if you are carrying the baby low, will be very uncomfortable. But if you are carrying the baby high, those can be used. Another reason to not rush into maternity wear shopping!
The first pic is high and last is a low bump. The second is somewhere in between.
3. Empire and baby doll tops are your best friends! Most women experience an enhanced bust during this time. These styles will flatter your bust line and the loose underbust area will be comfortable. Do ensure that these tops are long and fall at your upper thigh or mid thigh. Personally I found tops that fell halfway through my bulge very unflattering. Straight cut shirts will look awkward over the bulge. Ruched tops are a big no-no! You can opt for maternity tops if you foresee feeding in public places like a train/ airport journey / family car ride etc. Something like this is likely to come up in the six month period of breast feeding (the min recommended period) and a nursing top with discreet nursing provision is a great help. A saree would also do the job well here. I have used both and felt more comfortable in a saree. But then, for the rest of the time, a saree is a pain to carry na?
4. If you wear dresses, buy lots of them in jersey material. Even if you don’t wear them, get them for home use. They give you the same comfort as a nightgown without the sloppy feeling of wearing one. Dresses look very feminine and at a time you could be self conscious about your body, dresses will help boost the confidence. Slip into a dress, pull your hair back into a pony tail, apply a bit of gloss, some kajal and see the difference it makes!
5. You must not skip the Nursing Bra! Even if people tell you to make do with old loose bras, go get yourself a nursing bra. Your breasts will feel heavy with milk and need enhanced support. Old bras will cause them to sag, doing irreparable damage. Buy the bras toward the end of your last trimester to know what size to get. I bought a size larger and that feels comfortable enough. Nursing bras will also help if you need to feed the baby in company. Not just that they have a double cloth lining over the milk to take care of minor leaks. You’ll need that if you don’t want the front of your clothes soaked up. Oh and incase you start leaking milk during your pregnancy, add an absorbent material pad in your cup. That will help.
Well, that’s it for now… hope all you expecting ladies enjoy your pregnancy and motherhood. This will be worth it all!
My daughter’s little feet